Time for a baby update!
I am finally feeling less nauseous. That's good. Less tired too. When I really need to pee sometimes I can feel the baby squirm. That's uncomfortable but reassuring.
I inventoried what baby stuff we still have (re: didn't sell at garage sale in June or give away) and realized that we have all we need. We kept what we used, but for clothes. I might need to get another pack and play......maybe. I'd like a new sling and I have my eye on a website that does custom silk and Solarveil, a local mama at that. Those things will wait until May. My sister suggested that I just register for loads of diapers. That's funny because that's all Dearest Husband wanted to register for with Lil'Bug: diapers. It is funny how experience can dampen the effect of Pottery Barn ads, eh?
Lil'Bug is excited. She sometimes says she is worried about being a helper or a big sister/brother and now and then expresses anxiety about sharing. She also says she has a baby in her belly too. Cute. This does get varied reactions from people.....
I'm a bit nervous as to how our dynamic will change too. I know there is more of a difference between one and two children than any more after that. I am a little tired of hearing that Lil'Bug NEEDS a sibling. We are welcoming a baby, but she doesn't need one just as she doesn't not need one. I'm also tired of hearing people say snottily about moms of one, "Yes, BUT she only has one......" What does that mean? The best moms I know have one child, some of the other best moms have 2-3-4-+. I know the dynamic is different, but I fail to see how it makes one a better mom.
That's it. I had the monthly check up with my midwife today. All stats are fine, baby eluded the heartbeat Doppler for a bit, but we found the beat eventually: good and steady and fast! So far so good. :)
Confirmation that zero fibroids is such a wonderful thing. That means that so far, nothing stands in my way for having a healthy VBAC. We had quite a chat about the missing fibroids too, my research and theories- her research and theories. It really is quite an amazing thing that has happened.
I have decided to use doulas again. Since I won't have my choice of the doctor who attends the birth (of the 7 in the office I visit and that's my choice if I want to be under the care of this Midwife who I trust and feel comfortable with....) and my extended family are mostly far away- I am building our birth team. I plan on having Dearest Husband, 2 doulas, and maybe a mama friend. Lil'Bug if she wants to, but Nana and Grampa will be close by to help with her if she gets overwhelmed or scared. I have decided to have a note made in my chart to not offer me narcotics. I didn't do that last time and I tend to be a weenie in the hospital, if they'd offered to shave my head I would have nodded and said, "whatever you think is best..." Weenie. I have a selection of music for my Nano and I ma searching for a good book to read. Reading is the one and only thing that relaxes me.
What other things am I missing? I have plenty of time to think about it. If you don't mind sharing, what kinds of things did you do? Any other VBAC'ers read here?
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I'm a VBAC'er but I got drugs. I labored as long as I could with out it but just couldn't do it any longer. We had a doula and I loved having her there. She was wonderful and really made the experience that much more joyful.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, I kind of wish I had done another c-section because my child was huge and my bladder destroyed. BUT had I done that I would have always wondered what it would be like to experience labor start to finish, and for me to send him out into the world instead of having him surgically removed.
I'm thinking of you, friend and wishing you well in your quest for VBAC. If you think of any questions, I'd be happy to talk to you about my experience, which was incredibly beautiful. I was so glad to have VBAC as an option!
Cool- thanks!
ReplyDeleteNot a Vbac'er here but I did use a Midwife and Doula. I printed my birthplan (including the request not to offer narcotics) on one sheet of brightly colored paper and gave a copy to my doula, midwife, and the hospital staff for my chart. Among other things I requested uninterrupted time with my baby immediately following birth (baby not to be removed from room unless an emergency) and other specific baby-care directives. Everyone respected my wishes! I hope you're as fortunate as I was ten years ago!
ReplyDeletei'm glad things are going well. i'm not a VBAC, but i know what it's like without drugs... i'd be glad to talk about it, but i wasn't exactly normal so my take might be screwed a little and therefore not helpful. here if you need anything...
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