tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post6035399032468836627..comments2023-06-07T11:13:37.741-05:00Comments on Eat the Frog: Inclusion/ExclusionDanelle Lejeunehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05155845867676705502noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-21504703772277470282008-04-09T11:58:00.000-05:002008-04-09T11:58:00.000-05:00Know that you are not alone in those feelings. I h...Know that you are not alone in those feelings. I have recently, by luck and chance, fallen in with a group of wonderful moms. I spent so much time before this trying to be a part of a group, trying to find friends and feeling so down, so down on myself. "What's wrong with me?" I would ask. I would look around and see "everybody else" had good friends and good times with them and I felt like I wasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-74388197353463386072008-04-06T18:04:00.000-05:002008-04-06T18:04:00.000-05:00An unintended result? Now we have plenty of playda...An unintended result? Now we have plenty of playdates AND I am meeting some really wonderful people. <BR/><BR/>Thank you all!Mama Podkaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426961183153387383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-53664148918742893282008-04-06T18:00:00.000-05:002008-04-06T18:00:00.000-05:001. Reading this post and the comments have led me ...1. Reading this post and the comments have led me to draw two possible conclusions. Everyone who reads your blog is a social misfit (me included), or perhaps most people have these feelings.<BR/><BR/>2. I, too, rarely feel that I fit in, even with other moms who parent in a similar fashion. I'm awkward socially. I have a sense of humor that few people understand. I say inappropriate things. I Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13058015555169862744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-63996283734933630412008-03-30T23:56:00.000-05:002008-03-30T23:56:00.000-05:00I don't get it. Maybe it's because I don't fit in...I don't get it. Maybe it's because I don't fit in to any social groups either? Maybe it's because I don't know you on a real personal level? But you are so smart, funny, and you are so open to different people/situations (at least from my experience). <BR/>I'm sorry that you are feeling down and out. I know from my experiences that it's nice to have family to be able to go to that love us noAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-8604199411043096572008-03-30T22:43:00.000-05:002008-03-30T22:43:00.000-05:00I identify with many of the things you posted. Bee...I identify with many of the things you posted. Been there too. Don't like it much and it sux to watch similar things happen to our kids. All I've got are virtual hugs. I'll leave the awesome advice to the wiser sages before me.KMDuffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15192746631875517201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-66272316346218847512008-03-29T01:57:00.000-05:002008-03-29T01:57:00.000-05:00I'm supposed to be bringing something to playdates...I'm supposed to be bringing something to playdates??? Geesh. I didn't know that. I have never taken or expeced anything brought over. By the way... this means you aren't expected to bring to my house, either.<BR/><BR/>I hate the phone! I can even take days at returning calls and then I try to be off in less than a minute if I can at all help it. <BR/><BR/>Girls Night Out? Who knew. Oh Lifedreamedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11313832642440467687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-31806331726169719962008-03-28T23:23:00.000-05:002008-03-28T23:23:00.000-05:00Bah.That's a good word for it. Double Bah.Here ar...Bah.<BR/><BR/>That's a good word for it. <BR/><BR/>Double Bah.<BR/><BR/>Here are things I don't do, that keep me feeling isolated. <BR/>*use the phone (you're not alone in this!) <BR/>*call back <BR/>*text message <BR/> *socialize at the bus stop, because I don't have kids on the bus! <BR/>*bond over school stress at school activities <BR/>*buy 345345345 things from the 34534534 kids Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-19026082582451951992008-03-28T17:31:00.000-05:002008-03-28T17:31:00.000-05:00I have all sorts of little social quirks that make...I have all sorts of little social quirks that make it so I don't fit in with the clique. That's what it is. I am different, I school different (they are not for the most part unschoolers), and my home/self life is quite different as well. I value diversity, but there are simply some things that do set us apart. <BR/><BR/>I've decided to just keep being me. I found myself fretting over the things Mama Podkaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426961183153387383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-83458040615377654732008-03-28T17:23:00.000-05:002008-03-28T17:23:00.000-05:00I am so sorry that you have been feeling so down, ...I am so sorry that you have been feeling so down, friend! Man, that playdate really sucked. How do you keep from giving those other kids what for when they throw sand at your baby? I freak out about things like that. And that person who said they just didn't click with you?? For goodness sake, you're better off if they're capable of making comments like that.<BR/><BR/>Hold on a minute, EChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15920761083891173236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-53014628683280455052008-03-28T10:18:00.000-05:002008-03-28T10:18:00.000-05:00I know, it sucks. BTDT and it's happened to others...I know, it sucks. BTDT and it's happened to others I know too. I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting and I wish there was something I could do to help. I retreated into the warmth and safety of my family too and it turned out to be a good thing in the end. I'll email you. -- Oh, and that avoidance of the phone thing? Me too!zamozohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00184631789281445886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-91918227413405276172008-03-28T08:13:00.000-05:002008-03-28T08:13:00.000-05:00You are always welcomed here...You are always welcomed here...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-50741015057089041042008-03-27T21:57:00.000-05:002008-03-27T21:57:00.000-05:00Yes, that feeling of having chosen the right partn...Yes, that feeling of having chosen the right partner and blessed with children is incredibly comforting. :) <BR/><BR/>Here here to Springtime!Mama Podkaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17426961183153387383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3956451872342534845.post-75663936273151923252008-03-27T21:48:00.000-05:002008-03-27T21:48:00.000-05:00I'm sorry you (and lb) have had your feelings hurt...I'm sorry you (and lb) have had your feelings hurt. :(<BR/><BR/>Telling you "I just don't click with you like I thought I would" is just... <BR/>I don't know what.<BR/>Not something you should say to someone, or at least think about it and come up with the kindest possible solution. sheesh.<BR/><BR/>You know what my favorite part of life happening like that is?<BR/>When I get to feeling betrayed,Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06646398396834008698noreply@blogger.com